Memorial Day

Celebrated Memorial Day

10:00 PM May 28, 2001

Real Memorial Day is May 30

Dearest Darling,

Today Barbra, Polly and I took flags, flowers and twirly gizmos over to your grave. I guess the cemetary caretakers had placed flags on each veteran's grave by the service marker. It was an impressive sight. There were so many flags. I felt a rush of pride at that moment and one of extreme loss. I always feel that way -- I miss you so much. My tears are streaming down so I can hardly see well enough to write.

It was raining. The cross that Mr. and Mrs. Harrell sent you finally collapsed and I had to take it away.

Oh, what I would give to have you here with me, laughing, talking and loving me. I miss you so. This, "your home," is so empty without you. You were the reason that I lived for, I am lost without you. The days pass by, but they are meaningless without you here to comfort, cheer and guide me.

My desire to do anything is gone. My confidence and self-esteem is so low. Oh, honey, I need you so. I miss you every hour of the day.

All my love forever, 

Norma

Your Birthday March 31, 2001

Dear Jim,

Jim with a book, circa March 1998,
his idea of the best birthday present he could receive

Happy Birthday, Darling. I wish you were here with me to celebrate.

I had planned to have a surprise birthday party in 2000 for your 70th birthday, but it was not to be.*

The past 435 days and empty nights have been a nightmare. I miss you so much.

Today, Polly** and I took 2 bunches of silk flowers to your grave. We all miss you so. I leave a piece of my heart each time I go.

Like your Korean War Navy letters said to me,

All my love,

Norma

Notes:
  * Jim died in January 20, 2000.
** Polly Sparks, Jim's eldest sister